I can get out of bed, take a shower, and get dressed for another day. I can show up for work, do my best, and try to be kind to everyone I meet. I can shop for food, learn something new, and watch a little TV before bed. Many years ago, a therapist told me …
Month: January 2025
Adrift means to float without being moored or steered. It describes how I’ve been feeling, lately. The benefit of having goals and/or a mission is that we enter into that state where we steer ourselves toward a particular end point. Even in the case of adventuring, I think we are seeking something that attracts our …
Our daughter, Helen, said, “I think there’s a difference between traveling and vacationing, Traveling is when you’re sightseeing. Vacationing is when you’re resting.” By that definition, this was a vacation. The weather was atrocious and there’s not much to do in a beach area when that happens. Beth said, “Hey, this might be what retirement …
Since arriving in Florida, we have been to four restaurants. All of the food has been delicious, the service friendly and no surprise – it’s an area where tourist satisfaction is the coin of the realm. Our daughter, Helen, and her beau, Dan, are both bartenders. They met because their places of employment are right …
If all goes as planned, you’re reading this and Beth and I are in Gulfport, Florida, a delightful little town fifteen minutes from our oldest daughter’s digs in St. Petersburg. If not, we’re somewhere between New York, 35,000 feet above the Atlantic and where we land in Sarasota. After a 3 hour departure delay, I’m …
Today, I want to talk about the difference between living life in what I’ll refer to as “hard driving” mode versus a softer, “nice and easy” approach to life on our planet. Some of my friends and family who live in or near big cities are hard drivers. I was once in the club. We …
Today, I’m sharing wisdom from a daily reader that we use in ACA. This post feels like it might help lots of us. See the link below to search for online or in-person meetings. As we say, “It works if you work it! So, work it! You’re worth it!” MISTAKES Many adult children find themselves …
I just realized that I have been engaged in talk therapy for more than half of my life. As such, I want to say without equivocation that therapy has positively shaped who I am, improved my relationships and made my career more satisfying and impactful. I am grateful to my therapists who never (to my …
When I was a college freshman, my buddy, Stan, and I were walking across an expanse of green one night outside our dormitory. We were probably on our way to a fraternity party. I don’t remember what I said, but I do recall what Stan said to me after I held forth on something or …
May we Americans and all beings find rest from the chaos of our political, social, financial, familial, environmental, spiritual and health problems and enjoy the peace and pleasure of being alive.









