Just a quick post to let you know that we enjoyed the wedding in Pennsylvania, especially the ceremony which was co-authored by the bride and groom and the officiant. As a guy who got married in the Catholic Church and has attended many religious weddings, it was refreshing to see something that was entirely devoted to the union of these two people and their families.
My favorite part was the open expression of emotions in their vows. Both of them were wiping each other’s eyes and visibly very tender. It was so beautiful and very different from how I felt during my wedding ceremony. In my case, I was very stiff, in part because I was trying to do everything “right,” but also because I was less emotionally mature at age 30 than these two people.
I think the fact that I was able to be present and be aware of their emotions, yesterday, shows growth on my part. And I also recognize that my upbringing was less feelings-based than some other families. That’s one of the reasons I married Beth (an emotional titan) and why my work is a constant reminder that feelings matter.
I think it was the groom who vowed to keep trying to be a better version of himself as a husband and father. That works for me.
