I’m completely out of gas, flat, exhausted, and spent. I accomplished a lot, but not without beating myself up in the process. It’s not healthy to go this hard for days on end, but when you’re up against the clock there’s little choice.
I write this to remind myself how much work it takes to purge a home. We’ve been at this for 2-3 months and the work was consistently draining, emotionally and physically.
You can do hard things.
That’s a quote from a book called Mindset, a popular tome among educators who want to help kids learn the critical difference between growth mindset and fixed mindset.
A fixed mindset is when we know how the world works and our limitations. Or, with a particular problem, we believe in one certain, usually narrow end result. A person who adopts a fixed mindset is not going on an adventure because comfort is the real goal.
A growth mindset is a state of curiosity and openness. We don’t know the outcome, but we know we’ll learn something even if we fail to reach our goal. Hard things that are just out of one’s reach are welcomed – even if they bring some discomfort.
Often, a growth mindset individual will use the word yet as in “I don’t know how to fix my trailer jack, yet.” It’s amazing the difference this one little word can make!
I am most often in a growth mindset, but I have been known to forget that I can do hard things and that discomfort and uncertainty are often the leading edge of some new learning.
The last thing I want to offer is the need to collaborate, to accept the help of friends. Lately, my buddies are showing up for me a lot – emotionally, physically, financially and more. And new people are offering help, too!
Why? I think that one more benefit of a growth mindset is that people want to be around that energy. A rising tide lifts all boats. And a person who knows where he’s going often attracts people who like going places, too.