When Beth and I first considered writing children’s music, one of our goals was to go deep and write songs that would help children and families. During that period, we wrote “My Dad is Going Away” about divorce and “Believe in Yourself and Your Dreams” about, well, exactly what the title says.
Quickly, though, we learned that most schools and the parents and principals who booked assembly programs wanted us to “push the joy button” with kids, so meaningful songs about dysfunctional families or sincere advice about how to be happy in later life were put on the back burner.
As we got older and wiser, we began pushing the envelope a bit, writing programs that met the emotional needs we saw in children. Initially, we were worried that a school official or parent might object to some of our touchy-feely songs, but the opposite occurred. As we found our healing voice, we started getting more work.
This is not to say that we’ve abandoned our silly humor or stopped pushing the joy button completely, but we do so to gain trust and meet kids where they are. Yes – at age 62 I am still dancing and frequently going bananas onstage. We’ll probably do some version of that forever because joy is good.
This past weekend, we performed“My Dad is Going Away” as part of a presentation for veterans and first responders. It felt vulnerable and a little awkward for me to reveal my family’s past, but our plan was to lead by example. Beth and I both shared personal stories so the vets might take a similar risk to do the same with each other.
As important, we were the opening act for a singer-songwriter named Theresa Sareo who had a very moving and important story to share with the veterans. Our job – as we saw it – was to warmup the audience so that they could more fully absorb her story. As we came offstage, Theresa said, “Thank you for breaking down the fourth wall for me.” We did our job!
From August through October, we have challenged ourselves repeatedly to go beyond, to expand our comfort zone. But it’s not just us. I see the hand of God in how we have moved through fear as a couple and as part of a team with Gary, our colleague in Sullivan County, and other people who have played roles in our development. This includes my therapist, ACA fellow travelers and some community members who have our backs. It’s very collaborative.
So, how does one go beyond limited beliefs? In my opinion, it’s by taking on “scary” assignments that stretch us – and not doing so alone! If it feels uncomfortable but not paralyzing, it’s probably good for us…and the planet.
