I grew up expertly hiding from my emotions. As a boy, I learned early to avoid or hide shame, sadness, fear and anger (especially rage). These were labeled “bad emotions” by most people – particularly boys and men. As I understood, the goal was to shuck these feelings like the outer husk of an ear …
I woke up this morning feeling positive, lighter by far than I’ve become accustomed to feeling. This lightness was my old normal for many years. Honestly, I hope it will be, again. As I’ve offered in the past, it may be grief that plagues me every day. The loss of Bradley is one part. The …
I’m in St. Petersburg, Florida enjoying a few days of R&R with our daughter, Helen, and her boyfriend, Tate. I arrived last night and Helen treated us to a tasty seafood meal at Captain Bill’s, one if their favorite haunts. I found that waffle fries, lightly dipped in Parmesan cheese and served with a lobster …
My Prime Directive is: Be Safe, Kind, Gentle, Faithful, Loving, Collaborative and Patient with Everyone, Including Scott. My Secondary Objectives include: Take Time in Nature, Help my Wife, Parents, Children and Friends, Exercise, Eat Healthily, Stay Informed, Make Money, Spend it Wisely, Save as much as possible and Give a portion of it away, Achieve …
Our plans for our next adventure are shaping up. As of this moment, we’ll be traveling in July and August. The month of July brings us back to Westchester for children’s concerts at summer camps and libraries . Our plan is to housesit for some friends, helping to take care of their plants while they …
It’s been awhile since I last posted on this blog. I asked an AI program to do it for me, but it said, “we cannot duplicate the complexity of your particular mind.” I think that was a nice way for the machine to tell me I’m a little cuckoo. Have you been following this AI …
I feel like everyone I know is struggling with their biases (or judging others for their biases.) It’s a jungle out there, folks, and the vines seem to grow faster than we can cut them. In my case, it feels like I have hacked my way through issues like homophobia, female oppression and systemic racism …
My oldest daughter and I have an okay relationship…now. We used to butt heads a lot, but as she nears 30, I think we have learned to be very careful around one another. It’s really good that we don’t hurt each other with our words anymore, but sometimes I think it would be better if …
When I was in my mid-thirties, I misplaced my faith. After many years of steady attendance, Beth and I stopped going to church. I became convinced that if there was a loving God, He would not let horrendously bad things happen to innocent people in this world. So, I tried on non-belief instead and called …
It’s 9:30am and I feel like I’ve already lived a lifetime in one day. More on this in a future post. In the meantime, here’s a poem Beth shared with me, today. My suggestion is that you drink this one in deeply. Like the best works of art, it feels like God whispered it into …